Healing: A Journey to the Inner Self

In today's busy world, more and more of us are seeking ways to heal. Sometimes, we need to look so deeply into ourselves that it hurts.

We need healing that immerses us so deeply within ourselves that it becomes almost unbearable. We need breaks for ourselves throughout the day, week, month, and year. We need moments with a good cup of coffee, days spent in bed to rise stronger, as a famous Instagram reel says... but this is only temporary! Because working on healing doesn't end with a moment of rest, meditation, or reading a psychological guide. Healing is a lifelong journey.

We need to work on ourselves. We must cultivate our kindness towards ourselves and our self-worth to break those generational curses. To shed the stereotype of the "Strong Mother" who sacrifices her inner self in the name of love for others.

Healing begins with recognizing our own needs and acknowledging our own worth. It means allowing ourselves to be ourselves, to love ourselves. It means breaking the patterns drilled into us for years. It’s about finding our path, our voice, our truth.

Every moment spent caring for ourselves, hugging ourselves, loving ourselves, is a step towards healing. Each moment in which you choose yourself is an act of courage. Because self-love is an act of revolution in a world that taught us we aren't enough, that we must sacrifice for others, that our words don’t matter.

Healing is not an easy path. It is a process that requires time, patience, and courage. But it is the only path that leads to true freedom. Freedom from the past, from patterns, from the expectations of others.

So hug yourself. Be your own best friend. We deserve love, respect, and healing. We deserve to be happy.

What to avoid in healing journey?

Some of us, including myself at the top of the list, despite the best intentions, may unconsciously sabotage our own healing. Understanding what to avoid can be just as important as knowing what to do to start your journey toward emotional and spiritual health.

Instead of looking deeply within and confronting pain, we often choose to avoid problems. Pain and difficult emotions are swept under the rug, leading to their accumulation. And then it's harder to deal with the mess. We also excessively rely on external guides. Reading guides and listening to mentors is, of course, very helpful, but healing is primarily internal work. Relying too much on external sources can divert attention from the real work on ourselves. Another way to slow down the healing process is to neglect ourselves. Ignoring our own needs and well-being in the name of sacrifice for others is one of the worst ways to sabotage healing. Prioritizing the well-being of others over our own leads to burnout and frustration. The same goes for maintaining toxic relationships. Staying in relationships that hurt you blocks the healing process. Toxic people can keep you stuck, hindering healing and growth. We stay in such relationships because we don’t set boundaries. This inability leads to emotional and physical exhaustion. Boundaries are essential to protecting your energy and mental health. We ignore the signals of our bodies. The body always sends signals when something is wrong. Ignoring these signals and the needs of your body leads to deterioration of health. Workaholism and overloading. Immersing yourself in work and responsibilities as a way to avoid emotions is short-sighted. It doesn't heal but contributes more to stress and deteriorating mental health. We become perfectionists, but striving for unrealistic standards and self-criticism kills the healing process. Instead of appreciating progress, we focus on imperfections, leading to feelings of worthlessness. What follows is isolating oneself and avoiding support from loved ones, a step toward loneliness. Social support is crucial in the healing process. And the last, most important point: Negative thinking! Constant thinking in terms of "I can't do it" or "this doesn't make sense" creates a mental barrier that hinders progress. Working on changing your mindset is key in the healing process.

What can we do to make the journey to self-healing fruitful and enjoyable?

The first step is understanding your needs. You need to find time to sit in silence and reflect on what you truly desire. Do you need more rest? Perhaps more time for hobbies you love? Listening to yourself is the key to discovering what is truly important!

Introduce daily breaks. Short moments of respite throughout the day, week, month, and year help recharge your batteries. Find a moment for a peaceful coffee, meditation, or a walk. These small moments can significantly improve our well-being.

Healing is a continuous process that requires working on oneself. Instead of seeking quick fixes, we need to focus on long-term development. We work on our self-worth, kindness towards ourselves, and break generational patterns, which may be more important than any other challenge. We reject everything that might limit us in finding self-love to be better for ourselves and others. We learn to love ourselves. Self-love is the foundation of mental health. Often forgotten in the daily rush, but it is crucial to achieving inner harmony. This inner harmony is also found in meditation and reflection. Meditation is an excellent tool for healing. It helps calm the mind, reduce stress, and focus on the present. Regular meditation practice can bring many benefits, both emotional and physical.

One of the most important steps to healing is ending toxic relationships. Surround yourself with people who support you, respect you, and inspire you to be a better version of yourself. Toxic relationships hinder our growth and negatively affect our well-being, health, and perception of the world.

Learn to set boundaries. This is a skill that was very foreign to me for a long time, but it protects your energy and mental health. Don’t be afraid to say "no"! Take care of your needs and emotions. Boundaries are essential to maintaining balance in our lives.

Don’t forget about your body, which always sends signals when something is wrong. Listen to them. Taking care of a proper diet, regular physical activity, and rest is very important for our overall health. Ignoring the needs of your body leads to destruction. The body loves positive thinking the most. Working on changing your mindset is a key element of healing. Instead of focusing on negatives, try to see the positive aspects of your life. Positive thinking can significantly improve the quality of our lives.

Finally, I always emphasize that if it’s hard to do it alone, seek support. Family, friends, therapists – surround yourself with people who support you. Social support is crucial in the healing process and difficult times. Support connects with empathy, and that saves the world!

Healing is a journey that requires time, patience, and courage. It is a process that begins with recognizing your own needs and acknowledging your own worth. Working on yourself, self-love, and surrounding yourself with positive people are key elements of this path. Remember, you deserve health, happiness, and inner peace.

Thank you for being on this journey with me. Your courage and determination will be an inspiration not only for yourself but for everyone around you.